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Finally it feels like summer! I think it's actually still technically spring though, no?
Anyways, it's time for shorts and sandals. yay! I'm loving this off the shoulder trend - although maybe not the most practical when you have a toddler, it makes you feel super sexy without having to bare it all. A little shoulder and leg will do.
I decided to dress this top down a bit with some slides, a bandana and a skort, so that it's totally wearable for grocery shopping or whatever you have to do! But you could totally wear this top with jeans or black trouser for an even more casual look. Because I'm so busy with Hunter, I rarely go out to do anything but walking or errands, so all of my outfits need to be super practical. Especially for the summer! Because we go from grocery shopping to the park, to meal time, to nap time and it's craziness. I like to be able to just throw something on and go because there is never really time to think twice about your outfit when there is a toddler either screaming at you and pulling you to do whatever they want you to do, or they're getting into something and you're trying to wrangle them before everything in your room gets toppled over or broken. This is seriously my life. It's a wonder I even have time to get dressed and put on makeup with this little monster running around!
Lately I've been thinking about the internet and social media and what's real vs. what is not. Everything seems so beautiful and perfect in internetland. And obviously that is not the whole truth, but it's tempting to believe that all these beautiful amazing and talented people don't have struggles or insecurities. I'm sure they do. As do I.
I was admittedly wary of trying culottes. I was immediately reminded of the gaucho disaster in my past, but I ran into this super awesome stylish mom at the park with my little man, and we got to talking fashion, and when I said I was scared to try them she told me they would look good and I should try them. So I did! And thank god for that because I love them! They are actually so flattering, but I was worried that because of the flare, they would make me look big. And I'm pretty sensitive about looking 'big' because I'm really tall, so I feel like I need to be really thin, otherwise I might look like an ogre. But what works about the culottes is that they are high waisted, and more fitted in the bum and thigh area than the gauchos of years past. So they are much more flattering. And my insecurities about looking 'big' would have stopped me from trying these babies had I not ran into that cool fashion mom. Insecurities can be crazy and ridiculous but we all have something that we are not happy with, that we can beat ourselves up about on the regular just to make sure that we don't get too confident. Right?
Why do we do that to ourselves?! And why do we compare ourselves to others!? It has to stop! But I seriously think that the key to dealing with insecurities is to talk about them. Vulnerability isn't such a bad thing. We are all human. I may not be as pretty as the other bloggers, or as skinny, or as rich, or as amazing at whatever talent/skill other may have, but I accept that that's me, and I'm cool with that. I do my best and that has to be good enough.
So don't be shy to face your fears and try something new. You never know what you might find! You might find some really awesome culottes and wear them every single day.
So, full disclosure, I have not been at my best lately. I have been constantly sick, and so busy between feeding my little monster, cleaning up after all the food he throws on the floor and all the toys he leaves everywhere, and then trying to fit my growing business into all of the craziness, that I've been feeling like a bit of a psycho. And by a bit, I mean like a lot psycho. I haven't been doing this mom thing very long, but I get the feeling that it doesn't get easier, and that the constant exhaustion is not a temporary situation. So I try not to think about it because that's f&cking scary. So we are taking it a day at a time. But I got to thinking...I am obviously not the only one out there who struggles, and I don't want to pretend on my social media/blog/etc that I don't struggle. I DO. I am worried, and I am scared too. I'm like, am I a good mom? Do I spend too much time on my phone? OMG have I gained weight? Should I eat that? Omg I shouldn't have eaten that! Should I really wear that grocery shopping? Do people think I'm crazy? Will my business succeed?! Am I good enough? Why can't I be good at (insert quality) like that person??!!! Tell me I am not the only one who does this.
But here's the thing. Tonight I decided that I'm done with that. Because how can I be a good mom, a good business owner, a good wife, and a good daughter if I'm worried about some stupid ass things that I can't change right at this moment. Don't give up. And don't get life get you down because you are good enough, and you can do it. You just have to believe it. Got that? Good. But can you remind me next time I freak the f&ck out? Awesome. Thanks.
So when I was like...12ish...I wanted to be Sporty Spice, or Scary Spice, either onen really, because both were named Mel, and of course, that's my name, so I felt like I was part of the Spice Girls. I don't know how that makes sense really but I really wanted to be cool like them because I was 12 and kind of nuts. What I think was fun about style those days though was playfullness of it - they had fun! It was cool. And they looked comfortable in their 'sporty' stuff. Sporty doesn't have to be boyish, it just takes a little imagination to make it work.
That is why I love this outfit. So comfy and cool. I love the bomber because it's warm and oversized and amazing, and the shoes are so comfortable, but look pretty badass, no? And because I am running after my little munchkin all day, practical shoes are a must.
But the skort is all business. Tailored, yet short. And I'm loving it, although when we took these photos my immediate thought was OMG you need to work out your legs and get a tan. Typical. But I like the skort anyways, I don't care if I have snow white legs. Also, please excuse my crazy messy bun...sometimes I'm just so tired that I don't have time to fix that sh!t.
Anyways, get your sporty spice on and get some runners people.
I like cookies. Especially healthy cookies! That way I don't have to cry myself to sleep from the guilt or the stomach pain when I eat like 10 of them.
I recently made up this recipe because I bought these kids travel bars at the grocery store, and when I looked at the ingredient list I couldn't help but think...hey...I could totally make something like this. So I made my own cookie recipe! And my little guy and my big guy (the husband), both love them.
What I like about this recipe also is that you can make all sorts of substitutions and changes and it will still work out, as long as you have the right kind of consistency to the dough. I have mix and matched this recipe all over the place, and every time it turns out a bit different. To be honest, I really just throw shit together and hope it works out, and it pretty much always does! Some batches work out better than others, but they are never bad. My husband likes it when I put extra dates in, of course! And what is great about this recipe is that it is super healthy. Appropriate for little people and big people, and full of protein because of the hemp hearts, almond butter and quinoa flakes
So here it is!
Prep time: 15 minutes
Cook time: 20 minutes
2 teaspoons of cinnamon
1 teaspoon of arrowroot flour (recipe works without this if you don't have on hand, I just used it to thicken up the batter a bit)
1/2 teaspoon of baking soda
1 tablespoon almond butter
6 pitted dates
1 tablespoon of applesauce
1/4 cup quinoa flakes
1/3 cup shredded coconut
1/4 cup hemp hearts
Put everything excelpt quinoa flakes, coconut and hemp hearts into food processor and process until mostly smooth. Stir in the rest of ingredients and spoon onto baking sheet lined with parchment paper.
Bake at 325 degrees for 20 minutes.
For most of my life I have left my hair pretty much my natural colour because it is a dark-ish shade of blonde. Usually when I colour it I don't do my full head, mostly because I'm really bad about going to the salon so it needs to be easy to maintain, but also because I've been afraid to entirely let go of my natural colour. So I decided to take the leap and do something dramatic. I made a poor choice along the way though and tried to use store bought dye. DO NOT DO THIS. My hair turned yellow, and it was horrendous. And so painful to look at. I figured that because my hair was reasonably light, that it would work no problem. Turns out I needed a professional anyways. And I will never ever make that mistake again! Thank goodness the girls at the salon I go to are super amazing and they fixed me up so that I don't look ridiculous.
This colour is definitely taking some getting used to though. It still freaks me out a bit sometimes because it's so damn light.
outfit details below